I have just returned from what I feel was the most beautiful funeral I have ever attended. My DD passed away a few days ago….my parents sister and I had the privilege of being able to attend. I am thankful to have not missed this. Because just like DD’s life , his death and funeral have been a “spurring on” for me to seek after Jesus more and be Jesus to those around me. Even through death DD is still teaching all of us.
A full military funeral on the most beautiful side of a hill. The chapel in which the service was conducted was all windows. As you sat and listened you could just look out on all God’s glory in every majestic mountain and beautiful breeze flowing through the trees.
There was no music at this funeral and you never even noticed, his service didn’t even need it because as you listened to the three people selected to speak about the life of DD you realized , His life was a melody lived out.
In ” religious” circles you hear a lot about ” witnessing to people” and how you need to ” tell people about Jesus” and ” ask them if they are saved and do you know where you will spend eternity” In my life i never have found that to work. People are more interested in how you “live out your life” and not what you tell them. As Maya Angelou says, ” I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did , but people will never forget how you made them feel”
As the three people spoke they all spoke on how DD was the walking reflection of demonstrating to others Jesus….not through what he said to you but how he made you feel. His grandson mentioned how DD would keep a small notebook on sports stats so that when he came over DD and he would have things to talk about…his grandaughter said he always “listened to her..truly listened….not the type of listening that hurries you along so they can put in their two cents but truly making you feel like you were the only person in the room…my dad spoke on how DD and Nannie were the perfect example of Jesus saying ” love your neighbor as yourself” …you see when my parents met Nannie and DD they barely had any money and Nannie and DD just swooped in took care of my sister for three years while my mom worked and my dad went to law school and didn’t wish to discuss my parents paying them for their care of my sister…
My DD, as I’ve said before, demonstrated Jesus to me because he chose to love me. I didn’t have to do anything or prove anything or become anything…he just loved me…that is in a nutshell the offer of Jesus to each of us.
The pastor over the service spoke briefly from DD’s personal bible…he read a passage I’m sure I’ve read before.. only because the Psalms are some of my favorite places to land. The passage was Psalms 127
Psalm 127 King James Version (KJV)
127 Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except theLord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.
2 It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep.
3 Lo, children are a heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.
5 Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate
The pastor said that DD’s impact on this room full of family and friends was due to the fact that quietly without words but actions DD had built his house with Jesus as its foundation. And that looking out over all of us in attendance DD had filled his quiver full of ” children, grandchildren, and friends”. You see arrows are taken out of the quiver and shot out forward to people and places that the warrior can not go. DD may no longer be with us, but he has kept us all close and taught us all the love of Jesus by his actions and now he has “shot/sent” us out to reach those and go places he can not.
Oh friends, life is so short….who are you loving , who are you truly listening to , whose life do you care about more than your own…who are you “sending out ” to be love and life to others that you will never get to meet. You don’t need words to point people to Jesus….people will forget your words and your deeds but they will never ever forget how you made them feel. I will always remember how DD made me feel, he made me feel chosen and loved. He chose to spend time with a little girl who wasn’t even his but loved her like she was …DD will always be a warrior sending arrows out because he lived his life as the hands and feet of Jesus. What a legacy.
Left to right ( me, DD, my sister and my dad)